Speech made in High Priest Meeting 3-1-81 on the subject of ‘Chastening’
By Eugene Lundquist
“I had an experience with my Dad [Eric Benjamin E Lundquist] when I was about 18 years of age in which I was chastened by him. When I look back on this experience, it seems a little insignificant now, but it wasn’t then, and that’s what counts when I think about how this incident affected my life. I thank my Dad for chiding me on this occasion;
“Before I tell of this experience with my Dad, I think I should tell a few things about him so that you know why I had little difficulty in accepting all the discipline he gave while I was growing up:
“1. He was one of 9 children of a widowed mother – all of whom came to America from Sweden for the Church.
“2. He was a very brilliant man. A walking encyclopedia, a walking dictionary. He could give me the definition of any word in the English language. This came in handy when I was attending elementary and high school. He made up a chart showing the genealogy of languages. He could have been a lawyer, doctor, scientist, etc., but he had to care for his widowed mother who was dependent upon him.
“3. He was an honest man – always went out of his way to do the very best job he could. He was a professional painer and decorator. Example: Light mahogony woodwork finished by him at the old G. L. Rees, M. D. residence in Smithfield, Utah – this woodwork was finished just like fine furniture. After finishing with varnish, he then rubbed the woodwork with pumisce stone – this gave it a beautiful lustre. I was in that home recently (now occupied by other folks since Dr. Rees died a few years ago), and it is just as beautiful today as the day it was done over 40 years ago. The folks who live there don’t want to change the woodwork – they think it is absolutely beautiful.
“4. He refused to use prepared paint for painting the outside of homes, he would always mix his own paint with white lead and linseed oil (or boiled or raw) whichever type of finish his patrons requested. He also used turpentine to thin the paint down a little on the job. I have seen him stirring paint many times, working hard at it, and I stirred it for him at times for only a few minutes, but I soon gave the stirring stick back to Dad. I asked him ‘Why don’t we use prepared paint?’ He then took the time to show me two (2) homes in Smithfield, one that he had done about 5 years prior thereto and one (1) that was done by another painter about 5 years prior thereto. I didn’t say anymore about it. This was conclusive evidence of his fine work.
“5. He was married in the Logan Temple, so his six sons were born under the covenant.
“6. He went on a mission for the Church, after his mission, he went to a gold-leaf lettering school in Chicago (I think it was) for a few months.
“7. I remember all of us kneeling on individual chairs in a semi-circle in family prayer in our home in Smithfield, Utah.
“8. He was a great musician – director of the Hyde Park Band, and also director of the Smithfield Band. We also had a little family orchestra consisting of piano (played by my mother), violin played by Eugene, trombone Milton), triangle (I believe this was Charles and drums by Eddie (Edwin).
“I will now describe the incident I had with my dad:
“My dad had a lot of work to do during this particular time so he was very busy. One of my older brothers who ordinarily helped him with this kind of work couldn’t be with him this day, so he asked me to help him. We were working some very expensive wall paper and the job was for a prominent professional man here in Cache Valley. I pasted the wall paper with a dutch brush with the use of a regular wall paper table then I folded the paper to get it ready for my dad. He was hanging the paper on the ceiling of the living room. (Yes, in those days, wall paper was even hung on the ceiling overhead!]) We ran out of paste. My Dad asked me to make some more. I made the mistake of putting the dry ingredients in the bucket and then adding boiling water as I stirred the mixture. Obviously, the paste was a little lumpy. (I should have known better because I had seen my father make the paste before, but I guess I was too interested in music and girls and didn’t pay the attention that I should when I was working with my Dad). I started pasting the wall paper with the newly made paste and when my Dad started to hang the paper on the ceiling, he saw the small lumps showing up as he leveled out the paper with his wide smoothing brush.
“Chasten was hardly the word for it – he really told me off. He then took the time to make the paste himself – slightly cussing me while he was mixing it. I have never forgotten this experience. If pre-pasted wallpaper ever becomes scarce and anyone needs some good smooth paste, just let me know because I really know how to make it now – even to this day.
“I learned a good lesson from this experience, namely: Have a good working knowledge of your occupation; and also work efficiently, honestly and intelligently.
I have a fairly good training in my field of counselling in life insurance, but if I mixed the ingredients of training, experience, hard work and yet gave no compassionate service to my clients or in other words ‘leave out a leaven of charity which holds it all together’, this would be analogous to mixing booiling water with dry ingredients. It is counter productive. I would have had an unmarketable skill.
“Now, I think it is a little easier to understand the chastening or our earthly fathers, BUT MORE DIFFICULT TO UNDERSTAND THE CHASTENING OF OUR HEAVENLY FATHER. I imagine there are a few folks who have not accepted the chastening they have received from their Heavenly Father (through the Lord’s appointed servants here upon this earth), and as a result they fall by the wayside for a while – perhaps for a long time. In the D & C 101:5 are these profound words: ‘For all those who will not endure chastening, but deny me, cannot be sanctifies.”
“Here are some scriptures that show the importance of chastening by the Lord:
“D & C 101:5 – needed for sanctification by God. D & C 95:1 – the Lord wants to be sure our sins are forgien. Mosiah 3:19 – inclinations of the natural man. D & C 105, 3-6: ‘My people needs to abe chastened until they learn obedience. Abraham 4:25 – ‘Those who keep there second extate shall have glory added upon their heads for ever-more.’
EUGENE B. LUNDQUIST”